Thursday, March 18, 2010


At a certain point, there's really nothing more you can say.

After skipping work yesterday morning (again) and sitting for hours in a judge's chambers waiting, the B/F and I were allowed to briefly present the facts to a judge who barely listened. He cut us off about 30 seconds in, to rather nastily tell us we couldn't represent the MIL in court, and to start guardianship proceedings.

The cost of guardianship proceedings? $10,000. Yeah, that's not gonna happen.

He dismissed us so brusquely, with such nastiness, it left me breathless with outrage. Something happened to me that hasn't happened in a long time -- I got so angry and furious that it nearly drove me to tears. Not tears of sorrow or sadness, but rage. It's a curious thing that I think happens more to women or men -- when that amount of anger bubbles up, somehow angry tears accompany it. It sent the B/F into a panic until I explained that my teary eyes were to blur my vision so I didn't kill anyone in a fit of explosive emotion.

We now have to get a lawyer to file the fairly simple motion to stop the levy against her account. If I think about it too long I start to go radioactive and emit beams of nuclear rage. No wonder people have been giving me wide berth these past few days. They can feel it.

Thanks again to everyone for the very comforting support. We are caught in one of those nightmare scenarios where you can't do A because MIL's mental condition is too weak, but we can't do B because we don't have power of attorney or guardianship, and we can't do C because without a power or attorney, which she may now be too far gone to assign to her son, we aren't authorized to talk to her pension and ascertain which types of care they cover. It is such a nightmare mess.

I didn't get the gym time I wanted last night, and although I ate my usual food, I had two snacks in the afternoon. Not bad ones, but still. The SOD this morning bounced back up to my pre-weekend weight.

It's upsetting, but these fluctuations don't seem to make any sense whatsoever so I'm just going to ignore it (one more time).

Again, thanks everybody for the support. It has really helped.


  1. Aw crap. That's total BS. I'm so sorry that you're going through this...

    Wish there was something I could do, but I'm not a lawyer (though I have watche Judge Judy a number of times...). I'll be praying for resolution.

  2. Ish, I am so sorry to read this. That just really stinks. I agree with both Andre and Beej. I hope this turns out well. It sure seems to be a crock right now.

  3. That really sucks. Hopefully everything will be resolved soon.


  4. I'm still there with the support and sympathy (and empathy actually - I sometimes cry when I'm furious and I swear the tears sizzle when they hit my cheeks!) but no actual words of wisdom, alas.

    Peridot x